Dedicated to the parents I've come across this week. It's supposed to make you uncomfortable.
Ok, y'all. Let me say this for you, again:
The way you treat Autistic adults, you are condoning people to treat your Autistic kids just like that later.
So, apparently things you want people to do to your children in 10 years or so are as follows:
You want them to hear again and again that only parent perspectives matter.
-That what they have to say doesn't matter because they're too high functioning.
-Or too low functioning.
-Or too "emotional" about issues that effect their every day lives.
You want them to hear that they are a burden
-And you want them to sit there & take it, if not flat out agree.
You want them to hear that they are the worst thing that can happen to a parent
-Worse than cancer, AIDS, car accidents, lightning strikes
-cause of combat stress
You want them to hear that they have no empathy so they don't matter
-Other not-exactly-accurate stereotypes too
-Because reading your mind is the only meaningful empathy
-Because what is going on in our minds does not matter
-But not agreeing with you is more evidence that we are monsters
-And we must agree that we are monsters
-Otherwise it's more evidence that we have no empathy.
You want people to tell them, time and again that hurting people like them is understandable
-You want people to defend stories of extreme abuse to them
-Even abuse of people they care about
-Or abuse they went through
-Because, you see, being around them is so difficult it drives you to it.
You want them to hear how killing other Autistics is understandable
-"Don't judge" you say
-"Walk in the parents' shoes you say
-All while not even acknowledging that Autistics have shoes
-Much less feelings
-Or ability to see exactly how little our lives are valued.
You want people to treat them as less than human.
-Get a grip, you say, when we have opinions on our lives.
-You're just paranoid.
-You don't know what you're talking about.
-Gaslight, gaslight, gaslight.
-But they're Autistic, so they can't interpret their own feelings, you say.
You are giving the world permission, nay, encouragement to physically and psychologically abuse your children. Every time you do that to me, you do it to your child. If you love your child, why are you perpetuating a world in which they will be abused every day just for existing?
Is your sense of self righteous superiority and martyrdom really more important than your child's future?