Yes, I do mean that title. Parents are the worst ableists. As though they think nothing they do is wrong because they produced offspring.
Too bad being a shitty human being doesn't go away just because you had a disabled kid.
If you follow disabled people around the internet harrassing them, you are ableist and a shitty human being.
If your idea of fun is mocking the frankly horrific treatment disabled adults have undergone, you are ableist and a shitty human being.
If you spend your time complaining about how hard your life is because you have a disabled child, you're ableist and a shitty human being.
If you make up new identities for the sole purpose of harrassing disabled adults, you are ableist and a shitty human being.
If you claim it's ok because no one will do it to your kid because your kid will be different, you are ableist and a shitty human being with a side of victim blamer (and thus extra shitty).
If you act in opposition to your child's future civil rights because disabled adults don't kiss your ass enough, you are ableist and a shitty human being and a truly ghastly parent.
If it doesn't occur to you that your child will ever be an adult, you are ableist and a shitty human being and a truly ghastly parent.
If you raise money for people who kill their disabled children, you are ableist and a shitty human being and a truly ghastly parent who shouldn't have custody.
If you defend people who kill their disabled children, say "don't judge" or anything about their shoes, you are ableist and a shitty human being who should not be around children.
Working against your child's interests and future is the definition of "terrible parent". It doesn't suddenly become acceptable when the child in question has a disability. If you treat disabled adults like shit, there's really no way you treat your disabled child well either.
Being a parent shouldn't get you a lower standard. It should raise your standards for everyone else. If you think your child's disability means you should get slack for saying and doing things that would get you arrested if you did them to typical people?
You are a shitty human being.
You are ableist.
You should not have children.
And using your child's disability as your license to be a shitty human being? That is the biggest bullshit excuse that ever bullshat.
Parents who this isn't about? Maybe you should start collecting your folks instead of sitting idly by while they harrass and threaten disabled adults, while they defend hurting children, while they fundraise for murderers.
Being complicit in ableism is what allows it to continue. If this isn't about you, then make it really not about you: don't tolerate this behavior in your friends and acquaintences. If you tolerate it towards us today, you tolerate it towards your kid tomorrow. It's too late once they're an adult.
The schoolyard bullies never grow up, they've been attacking the disabled kid since the dawn of time. Just standing by was cowardly then & it's cowardly now. If this isn't about you...be brave.
If it is about you? Fuck off. You are a terrible human being and ableist and I will be here to pick up the pieces of your kid in a decade, but I want nothing to do with you.