-G David Nordley
I have never heard of any of these people. When we're talking autism, that's actually a very not-good sign. I know all the big names, I know all the local people, I know a fairly large proportion of the not-so-big names. This is what I emailed them. I want you to note how nice I was:
Good morning, I hear with trepedation that y'all have a panel on autism. I hear with more trepedation that I do not know a single one of these people (I know a lot of Autistic people). Are any of the panelists Autistic? If not, why?
(Full Name Redacted)
Thinking Person's Guide to Autism Associate Editor (http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com) Radical Neurodivergence Speaking Sole Proprieter (http://timetolisten.blogspot.comThe short answer to my question is "no". I still don't know why, though it seems to be "because fuck you that's why" or "because parents are honorary autistics right?" or "because our one Aspie board member hates public speaking & we couldn't be assed to find an Autistic person who doesn't mind public speaking". Their stated reason was "we can't ask potential panelists if they're autistic!" Except, um, yes you can. If you're talking about a disability, it is absolutely appropriate to ask you if you have that disability. They gave the example of "someone can be straight and be for gay rights"-which is true. But you can't have a whole panel of straight people talking about queer issues! No! Nor can you have a whole panel of white people talking about PoC issues, or a whole panel of men talking about women's issues, et cetera!
All of these emails came in & were sent out again while I was in class. Please have your Bingo cards ready.
I would like you to note, again, that my initial question was "Are there autistic people on this panel?" and that this query has 2 answers: yes and no.
Response the First (Summary: Panelist confirms she isn't autistic but her kids are).
Response email the second:(summary: more parents)
Response email the third(summary: yet another parent)
This one is my favorite for the sanctimony and arrogance with one's own "autism savvy": Response the fourth
I share my perception of the answer (and was nice, ish): My First Response
Dudeguy didn't like my response, also alludes to an email that he never sent me: What that Rickguy said
The email he was alluding to. Which is still a steaming pile, since asking people talking about autism if they're Autistic is actually totally legit: The email alluded to
What I had to say to that: But...what
The chair weighs in, also has no idea what defensive means, and makes a laughable comparison to gay rights: What does defensive mean?
And my response to them: Nice try but no
And some splainin: We're geeks so we totally grok autism
My response to that: Um. No. again.
Allistic person tells me ALL ABOUT AUTISM YOU GUYS: Splainsplainsplain
And then the splainin' privileged tears bingo all in one email: ALL OF THEM
Kind of a let down after the last one, but last panelist confirms he also isn't autistic: But stepdad is totes the same amirite?
Sooo Orycon doesn't even want my money badly enough to give a simple yes or no answer or to do anything about it but to tone police me & give me BS reasons that people who are not like me can talk about people like me without any oversight.
I am disappointed as fuck in Orycon, but I guess I'm glad that they made it very clear that they do not see me as the kind of person worth talking at their event.
**WEDNESDAY MORNING EDITS!!**
Too little too late in the trying to not suck (summary: maybe my autistic kid will talk): Nice sentiment, I guess, but you shouldn't have to be shamed into it.
And some more splainin, with a side of "you should come and be niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice to us": Condesplainin'
Look, Orycon, you don't get it. I am not giving you money. Because of this. You got your 'friendly suggestion' in email-like many Autistics, I don't have the money to drop on a con where this sort of oversight was made. I am a fan of stuff, but not enough to bargain my commitment to nothing about us without us.