tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post4702007566246438296..comments2024-02-04T16:46:03.204-08:00Comments on Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: Plea from the scariest kid on the blockNeurodivergent Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-68862282245268623682014-06-01T21:28:40.802-07:002014-06-01T21:28:40.802-07:00I think I ended up embracing that people thought o...I think I ended up embracing that people thought of me as a Monster by becoming Goth. Listening to Marilyn Manson helped me feel like less of a loser, and more like a cool outsider type.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-1480179305189531032014-06-01T21:26:28.106-07:002014-06-01T21:26:28.106-07:00I can't think about that, it's too awful! ...I can't think about that, it's too awful! >_<Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-65319717646344236962014-06-01T21:25:34.455-07:002014-06-01T21:25:34.455-07:00I cannot think about that, it's too awful! >...I cannot think about that, it's too awful! >_<Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-46605615435722101332014-05-24T19:36:53.955-07:002014-05-24T19:36:53.955-07:00I wish that you were overdramatizing, that it was ...I wish that you were overdramatizing, that it was all a flight of fancy. Unfortunately, you're not, and it isn't. <br /><br />Your words are an eloquent articulation of my worst nightmare.CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338465547298726792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-17121825909363356142014-05-24T19:36:53.539-07:002014-05-24T19:36:53.539-07:00I wish that you were overdramatizing, that it was ...I wish that you were overdramatizing, that it was all a flight of fancy. Unfortunately, you're not, and it isn't. <br /><br />Your words are an eloquent articulation of my worst nightmare.CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338465547298726792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-38684199645784439352012-12-21T14:32:40.199-08:002012-12-21T14:32:40.199-08:00As usual, thank you for your strength and eloquenc...As usual, thank you for your strength and eloquence.abailinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06865785181402417307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-16075989626348941352012-12-18T09:40:53.895-08:002012-12-18T09:40:53.895-08:00Dear Neurodivergent K,
thank you for your testimo...Dear Neurodivergent K,<br /><br />thank you for your testimony and for helping me to see things from another point of view.<br /><br />I wish you much health and happiness. Especially strength to<br />fight against the stereotypes.<br /><br />Hugs from Portugal,<br />DaianeDaiane Tozzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615573125763440753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-9979099746352189252012-12-17T12:18:25.972-08:002012-12-17T12:18:25.972-08:00*sigh*
Before I get attacked for using the word &q...*sigh*<br />Before I get attacked for using the word "psycho", please be aware that I am trying to remove that from my vernacular but in this case I don't mean that psychotic people kill their kids, I mean the incorrect colloquial definition.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-5152460319046742092012-12-17T12:16:51.654-08:002012-12-17T12:16:51.654-08:00Here's a question for everyone to think about,...Here's a question for everyone to think about, since personal stories from former children of mothers like these are less valid (so they keep telling me, anyway):<br /><br />How much easier did we just make it for the borderline psychos who kill their ill/autistic kids?<br /><br />"HE WAS GOING TO BE AN ADAM LANZA!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-83742782228984593972012-12-16T20:04:42.412-08:002012-12-16T20:04:42.412-08:00The very idea that you could ever be a mass murder...The very idea that you could ever be a mass murderer is so weird that it would be funny if it wasn't so tragic.<br />I hope you are as ok as you can be.stopbeingstupidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14860866633957025571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-23576481719978571782012-12-16T19:21:37.111-08:002012-12-16T19:21:37.111-08:00I understand how you feel, it's hard to live w...I understand how you feel, it's hard to live when people make you feel like a monster for no reason except their own bigotry. I'm so sorry.<br />I linked this post on my last post, hope this is alright.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-71598738093206905802012-12-16T18:20:41.990-08:002012-12-16T18:20:41.990-08:00Yup.
I hate it, because I would so much rather ju...Yup.<br /><br />I hate it, because I would so much rather just be able to stand with the victims and be sad. But every time something like this happens (and that sentence clause alone is a terrifying thought--EVERY time this happens), I reflexively start a countdown clock in my head of "how long until this gets blamed on people like me existing." And it always does. Bullying victims, dangerous loners, quiet, kept to himself, might have been autistic.<br /><br />It happened in record short time this time around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-67490738360057542752012-12-16T17:53:10.186-08:002012-12-16T17:53:10.186-08:00But that's not what you're supposed to gat...<i>But that's not what you're supposed to gather from people saying that being bullied or abused was a trigger for things. Sometimes, it IS. It's not being "used" as a scapegoat or an excuse. And no one was ever supposed to gather that that's what happens to most abused children.</i><br />Oh, clearly K just forgot that only what's "supposed" to happen matters. Unintended outcomes? Harm to people whose interests weren't considered worth taking into account? They don't matter! Because intent, as we all know, is magic.Cipherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152876241115334613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-45312020253200634952012-12-16T17:19:27.560-08:002012-12-16T17:19:27.560-08:00I think a difference I see this time (although it ...I think a difference I see this time (although it may be a bias, since I am on lots of disability and autism boards) is a ton of folks said "No way! This is not autism. This is not just one problem." I think lots of groups face this issue. Schizophrenics, personality disorders, etc. How many folks become mass murderers? But how many folks are acted against and discriminated out of ignorance and fear? I think it is ironic that Asperger's is so often blamed for these outlyers of humanity. What we have to be saying is "Let's stop alienating people. Let's solve the problems of hurting people."spectrummomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893167023543993093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-71232051841437485992012-12-16T17:06:07.217-08:002012-12-16T17:06:07.217-08:00((You are a beautiful soul, K.)) Know that we do n...((You are a beautiful soul, K.)) Know that we do not want to be isolated from you. Nor do we want our children to be isolated from you. Ever. ((hugs))Brenda Rothman (Mama Be Good)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17399227210081662280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-67455947509902065722012-12-16T16:47:45.870-08:002012-12-16T16:47:45.870-08:00i'm so sorry
and yes
amen
(and thank you)i'm so sorry<br /><br />and yes<br /><br />amen<br /><br />(and thank you)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-40062218629310158342012-12-16T16:41:51.250-08:002012-12-16T16:41:51.250-08:00I can relate to what you have said in very many wa...I can relate to what you have said in very many ways. I was an abused child. I was a bullied child. I have a child with autism. But one thing people seem to forget when pointing fingers at people who are themselves victims is personal freedom of choice. It's also said that children who are abused will grow up to become abusers themselves. When I heard that, I made a mental choice then and there (I believe I was 13 years old) that I would not become another abuser statistic. My children were not abused, though there were times when I definitely could have become abusive, becaue I had made the decision not to years before my first child was born, whenever I felt those violent tendencies creeping up on me, I removed myself from my children. I did not want that cycle to continue, and while I'm far from the model parent, seeing as how I had very poor role models growing up, I think i did a pretty good job. My children are not in danger of become abusers to their children, that cycle ended with me. <br /><br />I actively try to stop bullying, whenever I see it, because I can still remember the pain. When my son first started school in September, within the first week he had a bully. It was confirmed by the bus driver that this kid was teasing him on the bus, which caused my son to over load and act out by screaming and kicking. He didn't hurt anyone as he was kicking the back of the seat, but this is what my son does when confronted with stimulation that he doesn't understand. Rather then discipline that bully, we befriended him. Now, he is one of my son's closest friends and his personal defender. <br /><br />As for autism being a reason a person commit a violent crime, anyone who knows my son, truly and deeply knows him, wouldn't even be able to fathom the idea of him being violent. However, to those who don't know him, but may hav heard that some mass murderer may or may not have an autism spectrum disorder, and if it is known that my son is (his rocking and humming on the bus makes it fairly obvious to anyone who knows stereotyped behaviors of autism) may look at him and see a cold blooded killer and that hurts my heart because my son is so gentle and loving and so much fun to be with. And nobody should fear a five year old boy. With your permission, I wish to share your post on Facebook. I want everyone to know, personal choice is what it comes down to when violence happens, not anything else but that. <br /><br />You are a good person and I am so sorry for all the hurt you have suffered at the hands of others. Please know, you aren't alone, even though (and I know this is true) you might feel that way at times. My heart is with you, just as it is with my children.Vennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07942459643271606966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-77751544050744644532012-12-16T16:39:44.995-08:002012-12-16T16:39:44.995-08:00As for those that do ostracize people based on tha...As for those that do ostracize people based on that...that's the dumbest idea if they're seriously "afraid" and not just being assholes. I came across someone who said that a smile can change things. Now THAT makes more sense. "Hey guys, we should start brightening people's days to lessen the chances of this stuff," not "hey guys, we should start making people feel more shitty in order to avoid this."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-79686274929006624232012-12-16T16:37:52.246-08:002012-12-16T16:37:52.246-08:00If people are seriously saying that kid is "d...If people are seriously saying that kid is "dangerous" because they were bullied (especially if they took part in the bullying...how ironic?) rather than just looking for another cruel thing to taunt them with, then I'd suggest reminding people that most bullying victims do NOT end up shooting up a school, every time that seems to be a major factor in a school shooting. (It seems like common sense...there'd be way more school shooting if that was the case, but not everyone uses their brain). But, when it IS certainly a major factor, we can't go "hush, hush" and say "hm idk what his motivation was" so that some eggheads don't start taunting a kid or ostracizing him for being dangerous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-48680512620920212952012-12-16T16:30:18.104-08:002012-12-16T16:30:18.104-08:00Whatever the reason for each, there *are* reasons....Whatever the reason for each, there *are* reasons. If someone purposely avoids saying bullying played into it, then some OTHER factor that OTHER people share will be "blamed." It's up to those people to think that those that share "that factor" will end up that way too. You cannot escape the factors.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-33328147413755817622012-12-16T16:28:21.867-08:002012-12-16T16:28:21.867-08:00I'm sorry you've felt like you'd becom...I'm sorry you've felt like you'd become a mass killer..but the very fact you are afraid of it proves that you have a pretty low chance of doing it. You have to want to do it. Just like some people who are not versed on psychopathy are afraid they are psychopaths..just by THAT they aren't.<br /><br />I'm also sorry you thought that most abused children ended up that way. But that's not what you're supposed to gather from people saying that being bullied or abused was a trigger for things. Sometimes, it IS. It's not being "used" as a scapegoat or an excuse. And no one was ever supposed to gather that that's what happens to most abused children. I've also never come across any examples of ignoramuses who think "oh, he was bullied, let's stay away" (well..unless they had another element, like silence and wearing black to them). If this happened to you, I'm also sorry. <br /><br />As for the recent shooting, was it abuse? I thought it had to do with his children. But maybe it was that combined. No one labels this a Bullying shooting, so to speak, though.<br /><br />As for victim blaming...I definitely hate when people say along the lines of "it's your fault you were bullied." I don't get what the point of that is! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com