tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post3736298300917143154..comments2024-02-04T16:46:03.204-08:00Comments on Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: I'm aware of your hate.Neurodivergent Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-10067099158728868852016-12-14T22:26:13.898-08:002016-12-14T22:26:13.898-08:00So often, I just want to curl up, and just give up...So often, I just want to curl up, and just give up. I really wish I could live somewhere where "autism acceptance" is more than just an alliteration. It was actual reality. Thanks for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-25461783787665873722016-05-22T16:02:14.267-07:002016-05-22T16:02:14.267-07:00the backlash against autistic children AND adults ...the backlash against autistic children AND adults today that's perpetuated by the "media" in the US is offensive and fucking UNACCEPTABLE in my eyes and i CANNOT stand idly by and watch as my autistic brothers and sisters pay the price!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-75081620878042191022016-05-07T00:02:19.622-07:002016-05-07T00:02:19.622-07:00Chris;
You do owe an apology.
You came into a S...Chris;<br /><br />You do owe an apology. <br /><br />You came into a Sacred Safe space, and pulled the equivalent of #NotAllWhitePeople<br /><br />I am the mother of an incredible child on the spectrum. The only reason I haven't completely screwed up, is because I spent 15 years before he was born fighting racism and misogyny. Recognizing ableism wasn't a huge stretch. <br /><br />Learning to thank people when they trust me enough to point out my privilege is the most important lesson I have mastered. <br /><br />Accepting that my son is ND, and that is kind of like a different language /culture and it is my *responsibility* to learn his language and culture? <br /><br />Priceless. <br /><br />He is constantly teaching me new ways to see things. I strive to earn his respect, daily. So I call out violations of basic human decency, like parents who berate their ND kids...or therapists who take the approach that ND kids need to be "fixed" or school officials who intimidate children or other parents. <br /><br />Or people on social media who are blind to their own privilege. <br /><br />This is Sacred Space. <br /><br />Instead of pulling the ultimate privilege bingo card, would you be willing to start over, and thank everyone for allowing you in this Sacred Space? <br /><br />I have found that if I feel my body getting defensive, the simple act of giving thanks allows me to see the bigger picture in better clarity. <br /><br />It also helps me to hear the lesson. Adventures of the Chronically Illhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303862348449966390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-1923712861121483802016-05-02T15:13:25.315-07:002016-05-02T15:13:25.315-07:00I give it a 7.5:
You managed to not apologize for...I give it a 7.5:<br /><br />You managed to not apologize for your fracked up comments, address an adult in a tone generally reserved for children, and imply that only non-autistics are people in one fell swoop.<br /><br />:: slow clap ::Suriyel Daggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787347155492516144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-314522865273751942016-05-02T12:23:33.314-07:002016-05-02T12:23:33.314-07:00You're harboring terrible.
You are also
comi...You're harboring terrible.<br /><br />You are also<br /><br />coming<br /><br />to my space<br /><br />to tell me<br /><br />reality isn't real.<br /><br />That is unacceptable. Someone is going to treat your kid like this some day, & you are setting that example. not to mention the cowardice of not calling out other parents, as already addressed.<br /><br />I know you aren't sorry for gas lighting, because #yesallparents.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-73283667795231537152016-05-02T12:19:34.627-07:002016-05-02T12:19:34.627-07:00I'm not the one doing the wrong. My child ha...I'm not the one doing the wrong. My child has a great life. To the extent that I can tell that. She's non verbal and I try to know but I have no way of absolutely knowing and yes there is guilt involved with that. She's my child and I would love for her to able to speak to me and tell me what I'm doing wrong and right for that matter. I take it personally because I am a caring mother and want to do the best I can. I have no absolute way of measuring my ability. I assume I'm doing well because she's a happy girl. I was given a link to you're blog by an autistic adult friend. I found it interesting. Insightful maybe even helpful. But to attack me for the wrong doings of others no I will not apologize for them. <br />I'm not trying to convince you terrible doesn't exist I know it does for a fact. But with that said horrible isn't every person that's not like you. There are ppl in your side. Ppl that care and want greatness for you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06967181522936136634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-7304247972675313412016-05-02T12:07:23.844-07:002016-05-02T12:07:23.844-07:00Okay but where's your apology for spamming me ...Okay but where's your apology for spamming me with gas lighting? Do you tell your child that because you don't see something it doesn't real?<br /><br />I'm serious. you screwed up. You came into my space & engaged in a shit awful tactic after making something about you that wasn't about you (or is it? You took it awfully personally). That's the kind of thing decent people apologize for rather than trying to convince people that terrible things don't happen.<br /><br />The part of an apology are:<br />-expression of regret<br />-expressing exactly what you regret<br />-the words "i'm sorry"<br />-what are you doing to make it better?<br />-stopping doing the thing you're apologizing for.<br />Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-68538476424471422002016-05-02T12:02:06.051-07:002016-05-02T12:02:06.051-07:00To my dying day my daughter will be protected. Sh...To my dying day my daughter will be protected. She will live to adulthood. I guess I've never seen these things because I'm so consumed with her care and making a better life for her. Those ppl aren't the jorm. It's sick. I can't wrap my mind around the horror. I'm sorry that some ppl are like this. I'm seriously shocked. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06967181522936136634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-43239246917284807832016-05-02T08:59:12.165-07:002016-05-02T08:59:12.165-07:00Another whiny mother who takes general criticism a...Another whiny mother who takes general criticism as personal is also stuck in moderation. I fear for your kids.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-80509430907469741272016-05-02T04:53:33.923-07:002016-05-02T04:53:33.923-07:00Not only did Kelli Stapleton try to kill her autis...Not only did Kelli Stapleton try to kill her autistic daughter, she got her very own episode of Dr. Phil for doing it. Dr. Phil let her get away with telling an audience of millions that she was looking forward to prison because it was better than raising an autistic child.<br /><br />Jillian McCabe not only threw her six year old son off a bridge, she Googled other parents who had done the same thing to their disabled kids, so she could plan her defense.<br /><br />Before you ask: Yes, Stapleton and McCabe are unusual. But not for the reason you think. <br /><br />They aren't unusual because they killed or tried to kill their kids. They're unusual because they are both doing prison time for it. Our murderers are acquitted far more often than they are convicted. <br /><br />Allison Tepper Singer is featured in an Autism Speaks PSA telling the world that the only reason she *hasn't* thrown her autistic daughter off a bridge is that she wants to be around for her non-autistic daughter. She told THE ENTIRE WORLD that she believes her non-autistic daughter deserves a good life with a loving mother, but her autistic daughter does not. Autism Speaks - the nonprofit that claims to be helping us - used its multimillion-dollar marketing budget and international presence to spread that message.<br /><br />Chris, if you're not horrified by now, you should be. And if you ARE horrified, then start reading the work of those of us who survived to adulthood. Find out how we did it. Before someone decides YOUR kid's life isn't worth living.<br /><br />I want your kid to live. Lots of people do not. Which side are you on?Dani Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05320126446776981308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-22843763289405091802016-05-01T22:24:12.535-07:002016-05-01T22:24:12.535-07:00Chris Garrison,
Somehow I still allow it to surpr...Chris Garrison,<br /><br />Somehow I still allow it to surprise me when someone still "not all X" anything. <br />You do understand that is literally never the correct answer, right?<br />You also understand, that your name never appeared here until you added it, right?<br /><br />But hey since you're so sure that absolutely nothing here applies to you, then you must actually be fighting for my rights... so how about you regale me of all your personal stories about how you've actually done jack shit to fight any of the fucked up things listed in this post so that I can thank you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-30408484809690854152016-05-01T22:18:17.613-07:002016-05-01T22:18:17.613-07:00"Parents wanting to kill their kids because t..."Parents wanting to kill their kids because they're autistic?? That's for real?"<br /><br />Is that a joke?<br /><br />Because not only do parents want to kill their kids because they're autistic, but they have actually done so! More than one parent has killed, or has attempted to kill, their autistic child.<br /><br />In fact, a parent has killed their kid because they thought that they <i>might</i> be autistic.Cashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09627186897263127358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-62055876004029896502016-05-01T22:01:41.176-07:002016-05-01T22:01:41.176-07:00I'm here to try to figure out what not to do s...I'm here to try to figure out what not to do so I can be a great parent. As the parent of an autistic daughter I dont have time or energy to police other parents. If I see someone doing bad I work call it but seriously what am I looking for? The obvious is neglect or harm those things everyone can see and I would hope they would turn them in so what is it I'm not seeing that's so horrible? Parents wanting to kill their kids because they're autistic?? That's for real? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06967181522936136634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-864508691084428292016-05-01T21:47:25.728-07:002016-05-01T21:47:25.728-07:00Chris, it is *enough* NT people that dealing with ...Chris, it is *enough* NT people that dealing with their hatred and ableism is a daily thing.<br />And enough that assaults, outright murders, and abuse are large and inevitable threats, so.<br /><br />You may not have held the knife, but you are working awfully hard to make sure no one can take it out of the next abuser's hand.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14950220883118088051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-78018268247101167542016-05-01T21:47:19.340-07:002016-05-01T21:47:19.340-07:00Chris Garrison, I have never ever been in a parent...Chris Garrison, I have never ever been in a parent space that was safe for autistic people. I have never been in a parent space where I didn't hear someone talk about what a burden we are, about how horrible it is to be the parent of an autistic child, most of the time in front of said child, and I front of autistic adults. <br /><br />Good for you - you don't physically threaten autistic people. Fantastic. But what are you doing about parents in your community who complain about how hard it is to raise an autistic child? How much of that goes completely unchecked - by you? <br /><br />I bet it's a lot. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-88313578581782118412016-05-01T21:40:12.269-07:002016-05-01T21:40:12.269-07:00"Not all nt ppl" is irrelevant because s..."Not all nt ppl" is irrelevant because structural oppression isn't about individual actions. Also, this post isn't just about K's shitty as fuck parents. They weren't the ones holding the knife and they aren't the ones operating the Judge Rotenberg Centre or the ones publishing papers about how presuming competence is unscientific. This isn't a fucking isolated incident. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-28009445446927693922016-05-01T21:35:53.457-07:002016-05-01T21:35:53.457-07:00Maybe instead of not all parent-ing all over the p...Maybe instead of not all parent-ing all over the place, you can all recognize that this is a LOT of parents. If it isn't you, then what are you doing to make sure that somebody else's parents aren't getting away with doing this to their autistic kids? But if you come here to defend "awareness" and gaslight autistic people, then guess what? YOU ARE THOSE PARENTS TOO. Leihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13905174710189793686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-47572248086513461162016-05-01T21:29:35.713-07:002016-05-01T21:29:35.713-07:00Chris Garrison:
Did it say somewhere in this post...Chris Garrison:<br /><br />Did it say somewhere in this post that <b>you</b> did hold the knife? Did it say this post was about <b>you</b>?<br /><br />Did it even say that it was about all parents? If you haven't yet learned that there are many, many non-autistic parents who treat us badly (either our own parents or the parents of other autistic people), then you have a lot to learn.<br /><br />I would suggest reading more first, and then figuring out what you can do to stop the people in your group doing the things they do, and then maybe you won't see posts like this where you feel the need to state #notall.Cashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09627186897263127358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-86142036893722936532016-05-01T21:08:20.327-07:002016-05-01T21:08:20.327-07:00I let that through SOLELY so people can rip you &q...I let that through SOLELY so people can rip you "not all X" face off, k?<br /><br />Congrats. You haven't stabbed anyone.<br /><br />You have come into my space and been a self righteous gas lighting asshat.<br /><br />Maybe NOT ALL PARENTS, but YES ALL AUTISTICS.<br /><br />Also, YES all parents who are not actively purging that shit from their spaces instead of whining about how THEY didn't do it.<br /><br />The hate is everywhere. You're part of it until you choose to not be part of it.<br /><br />You are unwelcome here until you bring some 101 level understanding and probably an apology for spamming my inbox with gas lighting.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-13968845052976995892016-05-01T21:04:28.422-07:002016-05-01T21:04:28.422-07:00I didn't hold that knife. That's not me. ...I didn't hold that knife. That's not me. Your had horrible parents I get that but that's not all nt pplAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06967181522936136634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-13732966472180923392016-05-01T21:01:37.158-07:002016-05-01T21:01:37.158-07:00Chris Garrison, who has tried to comment 7 times b...Chris Garrison, who has tried to comment 7 times but is in moderation because this is more than 14 days old:<br /><br />what you say you see is...not at all what is there.<br /><br />You say you don't see things that happened in this very thread. Neato! That's not it not being there, that's you failing at seeing it. And that's willful, at this point.<br /><br />I've got scars from you people. Actual, physical scars. You don't get to tell me that's not real or misreading or anything. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO MISCONSTRUE A GODDAMN KNIFE.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-86825086304384579542016-04-11T06:26:26.270-07:002016-04-11T06:26:26.270-07:00@Katie I wonder how your son would feel, if the wo...@Katie I wonder how your son would feel, if the world were Autistic, but he were neurotypical... and that that was the minority? Probably the same.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08386799530342052754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-27062356791227168392016-04-09T12:42:02.647-07:002016-04-09T12:42:02.647-07:00I don't hate you. I'm sorry about your ex...I don't hate you. I'm sorry about your experience. Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11149885637140617891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-60874937595980847042016-04-09T02:59:25.999-07:002016-04-09T02:59:25.999-07:00I can't thank you enough for writing this. Tha...I can't thank you enough for writing this. Thank you, and thank you for dealing with the ableists.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13107218655320582526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-39698292486284182022016-04-07T13:40:43.140-07:002016-04-07T13:40:43.140-07:00Wow, Katie, you sure got me. I wasn't supporte...Wow, Katie, you sure got me. I wasn't supported. What a shitty person I must have been.<br /><br />Wait. That isn't how it works at all. My parents are shitty people. You are a shitty person for thinking that reflects badly on me. <br /><br />Your kid got the message somewhere that he is not loved and supported and that who he is is wrong. Your comments here make me think you are part of that. If you aren't, you have some tracking people down to do instead of telling abuse survivors that their abusers existing reflects badly on them.<br /><br />Check yourself, ableist lady.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.com