tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post7701220700031916648..comments2024-02-04T16:46:03.204-08:00Comments on Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: Conflicted Emotions.Neurodivergent Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-51522883888428103332012-01-28T01:32:23.813-08:002012-01-28T01:32:23.813-08:00Yay! The comment box works! Thanks!Yay! The comment box works! Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-5309683767424802972012-01-27T23:16:24.367-08:002012-01-27T23:16:24.367-08:00Thanks for letting me know. I'll probably have...Thanks for letting me know. I'll probably have to fiddle with the HTML, but an accessible comment box is important.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-63055482372107071762012-01-27T20:43:37.839-08:002012-01-27T20:43:37.839-08:00I suspect I know how you feel. I felt much the sa...I suspect I know how you feel. I felt much the same when my grandfather died. He taught me to skip rocks while simultaneously squeezing my breasts. He tortured cats (and emulated their yowling when interacting with my cats) and bragged about it. He ran over a dog on purpose with his terrified daughter in the car. He took me on walks to fish hatcheries. Complicated relatives are complicated.<br /><br />Also, I'm not sure if you can do anything about this, because they may just force you to use it this way now. But the way the comment box works is absolutely impossible for me to use on my iPod (no matter what browser I use), making it incredibly hard for me to comment most of the time. I can, however, comment on Dave Hingsburger's blog, <a href="http://davehingsburger.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Rolling Around in my Head</a>, just to give an example of a Blogspot comment box format that actually works. Again, I don't know if it's possible (or desirable to you), but if you could change it at some point it would render things much, much more accessible to me. Because I don't use my computer to surf the net most of the time due to the painful angles I have to get into to use it in bed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-36992221685868552052012-01-25T16:15:54.812-08:002012-01-25T16:15:54.812-08:00Kassiane - It is a hard thing at times to look at ...Kassiane - It is a hard thing at times to look at what we feel. I feel teary reading this, for the abuse that you experienced, and also for you in what must be a very confusing time. That's a lot to deal with. I am sending you what my 81 year old mentor calls "strong thoughts." I think you are strong already, but times like this require acknowledgement.Dixie Redmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290571323764327616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-55051172563548009762012-01-25T15:20:21.164-08:002012-01-25T15:20:21.164-08:00I'm so sorry...for lack of a better word? I h...I'm so sorry...for lack of a better word? I hope you have someone close by to be good to you right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-37803110139018071282012-01-25T14:12:13.422-08:002012-01-25T14:12:13.422-08:00This is very difficult. My parents died a few week...This is very difficult. My parents died a few weeks apart when I was about your age, and I had very mixed feelings- and often no feelings- about their deaths. They had not been "parents" to me for quite some time, and I felt very similarly to the way you describe. <br /><br />I'm remembering a line from an old movie, "Death ends a life, but not a relationship." Trite but true. You now have a finite amount of things to resolve about your mother, but they still need resolution. There are no "bad" ways to feel, only thoughts and actions that are beneficial to you or not. Beneficial is much better. Best wishes.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05681788194426093337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-28977237265875949452012-01-24T14:40:02.733-08:002012-01-24T14:40:02.733-08:00Mourning is very complex. If you're lucky, it&...Mourning is very complex. If you're lucky, it's all about the person - their good qualities, the things you'll miss, the things they'll miss by not being in the world any more. <br /><br />If you're unlucky then you're grieving for the things you wished they'd done, the person you wished they had been able to be. You're grieving that fact that there will always be negativity associated with them, when you'd hoped it could somehow been made right. And being human, a lot of us still self-blame, 'it might have been different if I'd been different, if I'd tried harder', no matter the actual reality.<br /><br />That kind of loss is very hard to process.<br /><br />(((autie hugs))) - the slightly awkward kind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-45256980584998242092012-01-24T07:59:15.098-08:002012-01-24T07:59:15.098-08:00Feelings have no moral quality, unless you feel th...Feelings have no moral quality, unless you feel them on purpose (which most people under most circumstances can't do even when they want to.) Actions, attitudes and beliefs do have moral qualities.<br /><br />I'm sorry for your loss - both the loss of little K's mother and the loss of any (even theoretical) possibility she would return.<br /><br />I felt pretty numb for a while after my Nan died, and she was a good woman who loved me and only ever did nice things for me. It took me a while to feel sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com