tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post3449134284982101870..comments2024-02-04T16:46:03.204-08:00Comments on Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: The tyranny of indistinguishability: performance.Neurodivergent Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-52750969027443002342015-06-10T12:49:23.994-07:002015-06-10T12:49:23.994-07:00Again, wow, so much of my life here in a page, the...Again, wow, so much of my life here in a page, the end of which was the beginning of real life. I'm 51, was finally correctly diagnosed two years ago, and after a period of grieving and mourning, I am learning to live again. Thank you!Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02261974014782795456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-66656612234760829922015-04-14T13:45:28.926-07:002015-04-14T13:45:28.926-07:00My partner and I often joke that I'm not a &qu...My partner and I often joke that I'm not a "defective human being". I'm a perfectly functional... something else.<br /><br />I understand that dehumanization is a real issue and it affects the autistic community disproportionately, but for me, stepping away from the pressure to act like a "normal human being" and actively embracing the idea that I wasn't really helped me make progress against my self-loathing.<br /><br />I mean... humans... they aren't all that great.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-72629173647460595152014-01-24T12:34:57.018-08:002014-01-24T12:34:57.018-08:00I read your entire Autreat story, and completely e...I read your entire Autreat story, and completely empathize. I get so mad at how most NTs cannot figure out loud sounds can cause pain and suffering for some people! The gaslighting reminded me of how I was mistreated in high school in Special Ed.<br /><br />Seriously I just want to scream at Jim and Cara that they could've been accused of collaborating in murder by giving you a seizure. I'll never get how NTs can be so ignorant about this. It's not rocket science!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-67443225358722388822014-01-24T12:16:23.289-08:002014-01-24T12:16:23.289-08:00A consequence of everything being about "chil...A consequence of everything being about "children with autism": no one thinks about the adults.<br /><br />Finally, someone else gets this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-37332547855315777792014-01-24T12:16:10.420-08:002014-01-24T12:16:10.420-08:00A consequence of everything being about "chil...A consequence of everything being about "children with autism": no one thinks about the adults.<br /><br />Finally, someone else gets this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797355163291930470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-7279590488242186042013-12-23T12:41:24.650-08:002013-12-23T12:41:24.650-08:00Thank you so much for writing this.
It's har...Thank you so much for writing this. <br /><br />It's hard for me to put into words all that I'm feeling right now...I don't think I've ever read a more perfect description of both my youth and my current, day-to-day existence. I've never heard someone articulate these experiences and feelings, until reading this, today; I've always felt like I was the only one, and that I must therefore be profoundly <i>broken</i>. I got goosebumps as I read through this, and then had to read it again, and again. I linked my friends and family to this post and told them: "<i>This</i> is what I've been trying to tell you! This is what I've been trying to explain! This is why I'm always so anxious, and sad, and--above all--<i>exhausted</i>."<br /><br />I'm 27, and I was only diagnosed with Aspergers in the last year. I'm just starting to find resources, books, other blogs. It's been a huge relief. <br /><br />(Side note: When I came home, the day I learned of my diagnosis, still stunned, and told my mom what the doctor had said, my mother's response floored me. She said, "Oh, I've known that for years." <br /><br />"Why didn't you <i>tell</i> me?!" I cried.<br /><br />"What difference does it make?" she asked. I didn't say anything then--and I still won't, because I don't want to hurt her--but now I could answer, honestly, "My life.")<br /><br />Your blog is wonderful. I'm in tears as I've been reading through your entries, good tears; I feel like I'm shedding a huge weight with each one. Thank you for your writing. Thank you for understanding.Erin Branscomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08129938129680200473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-51208887350673518782013-11-10T18:37:39.158-08:002013-11-10T18:37:39.158-08:00Thanks for posting this article. It helps me to un...Thanks for posting this article. It helps me to understand life from the perspective of my "normal enough" child with PDD, and helps me see that I have some of these traits myself. The latter is significant because I have never been evaluated for ASD. I think it is important for us to help our ASD children accept their shortcomings even as we celebrate their gifts (my son does well in math and is musically talented: plays several instruments and has perfect pitch). He and I talked about some of these kinds of things earlier today.Dr. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00035404293378203223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-21459732752770361642013-11-10T14:02:08.139-08:002013-11-10T14:02:08.139-08:00Thank you for this lovely post. It means so much ...Thank you for this lovely post. It means so much to so many people. I hope my children will feel confident to be their wonderful selves - "quirks" and all. I would never want them to try to be someone else.<br />Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382237078205477594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-13368885032756133692013-11-08T16:04:11.848-08:002013-11-08T16:04:11.848-08:00Thanks so much for writing this. I remember, as I ...Thanks so much for writing this. I remember, as I was convincing my parents to go to my autism assessment with me, my father said: "Go write an essay on all the problems in high school and I'll show you 99% of your classmates exxperience them." It was so liberating to find out after all that, no, they don't. I so vividly remember the tyranny of indistinguishability and I still fight it a lot of het time now that I'm an adult in an institution where the staff have not wored with (m)any autistics. I want to be real me, not some crappy emulator of normalcy.Astridhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10381016727248405767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-65590993352956808822013-11-08T11:26:55.918-08:002013-11-08T11:26:55.918-08:00I keep reading and re-reading this post. So many q...I keep reading and re-reading this post. So many quotables. Thank you. Just, thank you.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09110791846815400996noreply@blogger.com