tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post1932488152457464132..comments2024-02-04T16:46:03.204-08:00Comments on Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: Don't call me "talented"-BADD adjacent postNeurodivergent Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-50022662734348565472017-02-25T18:08:39.151-08:002017-02-25T18:08:39.151-08:00Thank you!!! Being double exceptional I was afraid...Thank you!!! Being double exceptional I was afraid to try things. Anything I do well people think it's innate. If I'm average it's a much bigger deal, like I've disappointed the world. Perfection was the norm being "gifted and talented." Some things are easy but I still have other difficulties others don't. That can make what I rock at alone in a dark quiet room something that causes anxiety attacks and agoraphobia. Other things I've struggled to learn and my being mediocre at them I'd like recognition for the huge effort. Using skills where I may have "talent" often is stressful because I hate the backlash from jealous people or teachers. I have a built in "no" response to being asked if I can do something new. Is that from autism spectrum issues of having a very hard time "switching gears" and routine or from being taught to be afraid to try something I haven't mastered because of the expectation pressure I grew up with? <br /><br />Thank you for writing and keeping it so real. I'm glad you are so honest. It's very validating.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14245308223722620430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-41231389054645418552016-08-02T09:04:46.263-07:002016-08-02T09:04:46.263-07:00thank you for this thank you for this Samantha Crafthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14016694573644321812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-51522207385020502632016-05-22T15:40:45.983-07:002016-05-22T15:40:45.983-07:00THIS is why i don't mention what i'm good ...THIS is why i don't mention what i'm good at because of the same underlying expectations of absolute perfection or total incapability it's flat out ridiculous and people have wondered why i don't "show off" my natural talents more, it's as if they expect a frickin zoo exhibit or something when i'm just trying to hone my abilities as well so i know what you mean! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2147438406266555027.post-16647687801368577902016-05-12T03:47:47.968-07:002016-05-12T03:47:47.968-07:00... I often repeat to the guy who runs my club tha...... I often repeat to the guy who runs my club that I am not a "natural". <br /><br />He thinks I am because I can mimic motion very well sometimes. Given a correction to something, I can implement it the next time I do the thing. <br /><br />HOWEVER, to actually <i>learn</i> how to do it that way, I need hundreds of repetitions. Because otherwise I will backslide to old habits. <br /><br />I tell a lot of the teenaged beginners about how spectacularly awful I was when I started: I punched myself in the face and gave myself a bloody nose trying to do a rising block. I broke my ankle kicking. I fell doing round house kick for the first time and cracked my tail bone. I got a concussion doing our self defense partner exercise. I could go on. When I'm done listing some of the really silly ways I hurt myself, I will finish up by saying, "Wanna know why I made it here? Because I practiced. I am <i>not</i> talented at this stuff. I had to work really hard at it - but hard work without talent beats talent without work every time."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com